Sunday, April 06, 2014

Surrender: advice for a BDSM slave



I regularly post about Safe, Sane and CONSENSUAL BDSM play, the danger of the myth of objectification and the responsibilities of being a Master or Top - but don't think that means that all the work and responsibility belongs to the Top in any BDSM play. CONSENSUAL means that the sub, boy or pup has his responsibilities too.

True, a Man is only half a Master without a boy or a slave to command - but a boy is equally empty of purpose without a Master to serve. 


I have said many times that “BDSM is exchange” - but for that exchange to take place, BOTH must play their part: and that means that the sub must SUBMIT.


And you really do want to submit, don't you? That's been your fantasy for so long: to meet (or be taken by) some strong, masculine Man - to have Him take control of the situation, and of you - a Masterful Man who will step forward and relieve you of the need to decide what to do next, a Master who will take you and release you from the responsibility - and the guilt - of enacting those dark desires that bubble away beneath the mask of respectability that you struggle to hold and believe in...

You've seen the images, read the stories - dreamt the fantasies; you've hungered to be that boy, that sub: the one who kneels, the one who serves. You want to feel what he feels, be what he is.

And now, here you are: at that Man's door, kneeling at His feet - and that longed for AWFUL moment  of reality has finally come...

You know that you can’t get were you need to all alone: that you need to be guided, directed, led.  Ordered. You have come to this Man because you believe He knows what you wish to learn. You’ve made your checks: spoken to others, spoken to Him; you can be sure that He is what He says He is - a genuine Top, a real Master. He has asked you about your desires, delved into your fantasies, clarified your level of experience - He has clearly and honestly told you that He will take control - that He will use His experience and His knowledge to take you were you need to go, and has warned you that in doing so He may need to push you outside of your comfort zone - but you have spoken to others who have played with Him, served for Him, and you know that He is no lunatic, no abuser - and you are sure that you can trust Him.


So: TRUST Him.

SUBMIT.



He is the way to discover more than you could ever know alone. He will teach you more about YOU than you could ever imagine. But to do that, you must let Him lead - let Him take control.


You want this. You need it. Sure, it is frightening to give up control: to trust another and give yourself up into His hands; but beneath that fear is something better, something expectant, something anticipatory… Let that excitement overcome the doubt - and just LET GO.


Surrender to your desire. 

Surrender to HIM. 


Let yourself feel the incredible release - the overwhelming freedom - that is true surrender.


Because THAT is what it means to be a sub - and that is what makes a man a boy.



And it feels fuckin amazing…

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