Thursday, February 26, 2009
Why dogs are better than wives or boyfriends:
1. The later you are, the more excited your dogs are to see you.
2. Dogs don't notice if you call them by another dog's name.
3. Dogs like it if you leave a lot of things on the floor.
4. A dog's parents never visit.
5. Dogs agree that you have to raise your voice to get your point across.
6. You never have to wait for a dog; they're ready to go 24 hours a day.
7. Dogs find you amusing when you're drunk..
8. Dogs like to go hunting and fishing.
9. A dog will not wake you up at night to ask, "If I died, would you get another dog?"
10. If a dog has babies, you can put an ad in the paper and give them away..
11. A dog will let you put a studded collar on it without calling you a pervert..
12. If a dog smells another dog on you, they don't get mad. They just think it's interesting.
13. Dogs like to ride in the back of a pickup truck (or a bike...).
14. If a dog leaves, it won't take half of your stuff.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
'In play you realize simultaneously the supreme importance and utter insignificance of what you are doing... Play is where life lives'
[George Sheehan, "Running and being"]
i like the idea and description of the sexual experience as play. It is that same child-like sense of wonder and utter involvement in the experience - the complete dedication to the overwhelming seriousness of the act - the abandonment of all but the moment and the task at hand. Embracing the self-imposed restrictions of rule and role - but finding a new freedom within them...
'Scene' doesn't cut the same with me. Scene is an act, something that is done with a distance or objectification. True, we can lose ourselves in the role, in the ritual - but there is still too much of the 'scripted' and the 'performance' to be fully liberating.
'Scene' leaves the actors as colleagues: the performance over they leave without having ever really touched.
'Play' gives space for joy - for love and life and complete fulfilment.
'Play' gives the players the space and the freedom to express their identity and their desires - to test each against the other and evolve the experience in the moment as it comes. 'Play' needs no script - just a situation, a 'lets-pretend' and an openness to explore and become. Having tested and touched and together achieved, it can still all end with a grin and a hug - yet each will not leave unaltered.
'Play' is essential and freeing - and utterly unimportant and without worth. In other words - 'priceless'
'Do you want to play with me...?'
Monday, February 02, 2009
There really *are* many levels of pup-play, and different meanings to "Owner" and "Handler" and "Master" - and maybe even different kinds of pup. Our own motivations towards pup-space colour the kind of play we desire - or will tolerate...
Each is unique and beautiful in it's way - but you do have to be aware the breeds exist, or it can get confusing:
* Some pups go into the space from a very playful angle, and really are just puppies - for them perhaps the sexual side is less important than simply expressing their "puppy" identity. For these pups, their Owner or Master is likely to be their friend perhaps - and play involve a lot of cuddling and ball chasing and petting?
* Other pups are more horny dogs - and for them their pup-identity is much more sexual and primal. Pup's like this might be more in need of a Handler who can train them a little and keep them under enough control not to hump every leg that passes. Play for them is always going to get sexual. ;)
* Yet other pups have their pup-identity coloured by an already existing submissive or 'service orientated' sexual identity - for them, being 'pup' can often be a way to release their human limitations and express simple devotion and puppy-obedience to their Master. sub-pups like this always need a Handler or a Master - since their pup-identity is so heavily orientated towards devotion and the pleasure of being owned (and loved). Play will probably be sexual - but also may include obedience training, or bondage etc (basically - anything that allows the pup to obey and show it's Master service).
* Finally, some pups are *heavily* motivated towards SM and enjoy the 'humiliation' aspects of being treated "like a dog". Most of these pups will need a Master - but it's likely play will involve treating them a *lot* worse than you ever might a *real* dog ;)
Add in different inclinations in each type towards furry and Anthro tendancies - or rubber/leather fetishes - role-play - SM... and you got quite a heady and confusing mix. Each pup is unique, so no wonder we sometimes get confused :)))
(Interestingly - although most of the pups i know are in the 1st "puppy" or 3rd "sub-pup" category, most of the new "Masters" i've met tend to automatically assume that most pups are in the last "DOG" one - and that any "dog" will want to be beaten and fucked and treated badly... Lucky for this pup that it's own Master is a member of the RSPCP ;)) )